A 90-day timeline: how to build a report without accusations

Why 90 days

Three months is long enough to see the rhythm of events, yet short enough that you don't drown in the history of the whole conflict. A 90-day timeline helps you separate events from emotions and prepare material that can actually be read.

This is not a report of blame. It is a log of contacts and information.

Rule one: one event, one entry

Don't lump a whole week into a single description. Every entry should have a date, a time, the type of event, a short description, the people or institutions involved, and the next step. If contact failed three times, make three separate entries.

A neutral example: "12.06.2026, 18:02, attempted call. The call was not answered. At 18:05 a message was sent asking whether contact could take place later. No reply by 20:00."

Rule two: don't record motives

Don't write: "the other parent did it on purpose." Write what you can demonstrate: "contact scheduled for 18:00 did not take place," "no reply," "reply came at 19:15," "an alternative time was proposed."

Motive can be a topic for a conversation with your lawyer, but a record of events is stronger when it doesn't guess.

Rule three: distinguish contact from information

Contact with the child and information about the child are different categories. Record separately: planned contact, contact that took place, contact that did not take place, an attempted call, a message, information from school, medical information, a meeting, a trip, an activity, and a lack of reply.

This way the report shows the structure of the situation, rather than one big story.

Rule four: don't attach everything

An attachment should support a specific entry. Don't paste in hundreds of screenshots without selection. If an attachment contains the child's data, health data, or addresses, treat it as especially sensitive. Don't publish it on a forum.

In the report, note that the attachments are the user's choice and do not constitute a legal assessment.

Weekly review

Once a week, check that every entry has a date, a type, and a neutral description. Remove insults from the report notes. A private note may carry emotion; a report should not.

Ask these questions: does the entry say what happened, does it point to the next step, does it keep the child out of the conflict, does it avoid unnecessary data.

How to name the report

Use names like: "Log of contacts and information," "Information report," "Timeline of contacts," "Summary of events." Don't use names like: "alienation report," "list of faults," "evidence against the parent."

What to give your lawyer

Give a short timeline, the base documents, a list of questions, and the most important events marked. Don't start with a hundred pages. Start with a map of the situation, and have the details ready.

A good report

A good report does not shout. A good report lets you calmly see what happened, when, how often, and what steps were taken. That is enough.