Check the tone of your message to the other parent

Before you send a message to your ex, check how it will sound. This free tool by the One Reason Foundation rates how calm your message is and suggests a softer version — so conflict doesn't escalate and your child stays out of it.

Check your message tone

Paste or type a message to the other parent. I'll check whether it sounds calm — and suggest a softer version before you send it.

Calm—

Start typing and I'll show the tone.

How it works

  1. 1Paste or type the message you want to send.
  2. 2See the calm score and what hurts the tone.
  3. 3Copy the calmer version and send it without regret.

Who it's for

For separated parents communicating under stress — around contact, handovers, school and everyday arrangements.

Frequently asked questions

Is this tool free?
Yes. Checking your message tone is completely free, with no sign-up and no limits.
Is my message stored anywhere?
We don't store the content of your messages. The analysis only shows the tone and a softer suggestion.
Is this legal advice?
No. It's communication support. For legal matters consult a family lawyer or a mediator.

More calm materials

Message templates and guides in the compendium →

A tool by the One Reason Foundation. Not legal advice; for individual matters consult a family lawyer or mediator.